Eric's Philosophy of Flying

I have spoken about my philosophy of flying many times in different talks that I have given.  Basically, "Look down, no eye contact, be friendly, and get me to my destination."  I don't see it as a chance to have a captive audience or an opportunity to make a new friend.  That may be wrong - I admit that.  But last night was different.  I was flying from St Louis (on a plane with a few Cardinal Fans) flying to Atlanta to spend a week with friends who do the same sort of thing that I do - only they them better, so I am coming to learn,  but they don't know that!

The last guy on the plane carried a guitar case - he was older than me but vibrant and full of life.  Looking a little disappointed he was the last one on the flight, he found a place for his guitar case and sat in the middle seat next to me.  It was the 3rd best seat on the plane - the middle seat in the exit row with enough leg room to stretch and enjoy the flight.

Out of my mouth, before I could stop the words, I said, "You have to be a musician."  What did I do?  I broke my philosphy - the cardinal (had to use the word) rule: I spoke first!  This is not a good practice and I hung my head in shame.  He replied, "I am a composer."

He went on to tell me that an 20 year old dream and just come true.  A vision that I held dear for 20 years, was just recorded two weeks ago by the London Symphony Orchestra, recorded at the Abbey Road Studio.

What?  I said.  He assured me that it truly was.  An orchestration that he had been working and dreaming about for 20 years, telling everyone he could meet, playing it over and over for family and friends... the vision fell into to the right hands and within five minutes, the conductor of the London Symphony said he loved it and as soon as the orchestra came back in session - they would record it.

While he held his dream, he sold real estate in Naples, FL.  I am not sure of the other sacrifices or other jobs he held during his dream.  I am not sure what other cost he paid - but he never gave up. I have no idea how many people thought, "give up!".  I was moved to tears as he told me his story.  While I watched the Cubs Game on a plane with Cardinals fans; tears came quicker as he shared his life story all for the dream. Oh great, I am going to cry and the Cubs are winning.  Fortunately, I was not the only man on the plane crying because the Cardinals were losing.

He was already a great man, I could tell.  He came from incredible roots.  His father accomplished historic amazing things for the city of St Louis in the 60's and 70's including the vision of the Arch.  He was not a stranger to success.  Even selling real estate in Naples was a sign of success.

But the dream was still in his heart.  The vision wasn't realized.  Great things he had done but the best was still alive in his heart.  What could he do?  He worked his job, lived his life, played his music but the unrecorded, unheard musical was only alive in his heart.

Then one day, he shared it to the right person, who shared it with the right person and two weeks later he is skyping with the conductor of the London Symphony as they recorded his masterpiece.  The story behind "Queen of Hearts" is the life story of Princess Diana.

I wanted to hear it but wouldn't dare ask if I could have it?  I inquired about iTunes and he said, not yet but it will be.  As we neared Atlanta Airport he said, "Eric, could I share it with you? I can email it to you." I replied, "Of course, you made my day.  You have talked about your dream, I want to hear it."

He emailed it to me.  I just happened to pack my BOSE speaker (Bluetooth portable and amazing) - with my BOSE fully charged I opened the email and heard it.

Once again, moved to tears as I listened to this dream, a vision that embraces an artist's values and passion - it is one of the finest interpretations of love, honor, prestige, excitement, majestic...  friends, it was amazing.

I had ordered room service, the young lady who delivered my salad said, "that's beautiful Mr Livingston, it sounds like it is from England, is it?"  I fought back the tears again... Geesh was a sap!

I said, "I met the composer tonight and just am listening it to for the 2nd time, and yes, it was recorded by the London Symphony... for the Queen of Hearts and her life story."  She said, "My mom would love it, she loved Princess Diana."

I told her, "I am guessing she will hear it -- very soon -- because there is something viral about it."

This beautiful dark skinned young girl smiled and said, "It really is beautiful, I am from England and I think they will like it."

It would be wrong for me to share the link but you will hear it soon enough - Queen of Hearts recorded first by the London Symphony at the Abbey Road Studio - October 18.

A day that a vision became alive!  After 20 years.

Thanks for sharing it with me Craig Cervantes - for sharing your story, your vision, a 90 minutes of your life with a guy who usually sits with head down, facing forward and engaging with no one.  I wonder how many other stories I have missed with this selfish philosophy.

Discipleship Program or Not?

Should we have a Discipleship program in the church?  I don’t think the answer is a program.  Discipleship needs to be intentional and systemic so that it leaks into the culture of the church at every age level.

The strategy that I used was small groups and one on one relationships.  Small groups were taught by trained people that led others studying the Bible.  My favorite style was one on one (and maybe up to four).  I met with men for breakfast or lunch and had my devotions (study) time with them. I followed a model called SOAP. S=Scripture; O=Observation; A=Application; P=Prayer.

Effective discipleship is not about curriculum.  Its about helping, loving, and leading others to follow Jesus by being more and more like Jesus.  If you know how to love like Jesus and walk like Jesus then you can disciple someone.  Notice I did not say that you are perfect in every way like Jesus at all times.  We can teach others how to seek God, repent, read the Bible, pray and share their faith with others.

Find someone and study God’s Word together.  Learn the stories of Jesus – tell them over and over.  Even if you study a book by a favorite author – always be in the Word too.

Would you like to hear more about discipleship? Do you think it might help your church?  Would it help you? 

A Meeting Filled with Hope - Sullivan Illinois

I met with the leaders of the Church of God in Sullivan earlier this week.  I was so encouraged by the topics of discussion.  You see, several years ago the topics of discussion were so typical of what I usually hear:

1)   We need a new program

2)   How are we ever going to turn the decline around

3)   How are we going to get new people

4)   We better keep the people that pay the bills happy

5)   We better keep the new people

6)   This family will leave if…

7)   I remember when…

But last week we were talking vision, discipleship, growing budgets, new families, assimilation, missional community outreach.  How cool is that?

It’s all about leadership and Pastor Brandon Zoll’s strategic thinking  - that has been bathed in prayer, study, and good preaching.   They have a long way to go to reach what their vision communicates but they are moving; just like the Church of God is suppose to be – movement!  They are reclaiming souls that the enemy had stolen.  They are reclaiming their city for Christ. It was a meeting filled with smiles and encouragement.  Even the oldest lady (that I thought was going to struggle with any change) was full of hope and excitement.

Many skills make for an effective pastor but there is one that must never be forgotten – we are disciple-makers.  Without making disciples, it doesn’t matter how good your personality is, how powerful your attractional model of worship is, how amazing people say your pastor preaches… it’s over if you don’t make disciples.

1)   Are you making disciples?  Are you reproducing yourself in someone else on a regular schedule and a strategic manner? 

2)   Is your church a disciple making church? Can you look at your congregation and point to someone that 10 years ago was not even a believer?

“But we don’t have a program”!  Discipleship is not a program.  It’s about being intentional to teach others how to read the Bible – the way you read it.  To teach someone to pray like you pray.  To tell people about Jesus and then teach them to tell people about Jesus.

The other day a friend and I were traveling in two separate cars to Springfield.  He was following me.  He called me and asked if we could meet at a restaurant once we arrived in Springfield.  I said, “yes, follow me as I follow Christ.” We laughed.  However, I couldn’t get the remark out of my mind.  I said it as a silly statement but what a powerful thought.  Can I really say to someone, “Follow me as I follow Christ.”  That’s discipleship!

Should we have a program of discipleship? 

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No Drama Leadership

Browsing through a Barnes and Nobles is one of my favorite things to do. Being among books and browsing titles gets my creative juices flowing.  Adding a good cup of coffee while browsing only makes the experiences all the grander. 

I saw it, “No-Drama Leadership – How Enlightened Leaders Transform Culture in the Workplace”. I thought, how about the title, “No- Drama Church Leadership – How Enlightened Church Leaders Transform the Culture of Ministry?”

You see, it’s a lack of leadership not spirituality that is problematic most of the time.  Unless we take responsibility for healthy relationships in the church, people will continue to get hurt.  I know, I have hurt people badly.  I’ve been wounded deeply. My stomach has been left in knots after people scolded me for what I did or didn’t do.  I have literally trembled in horror that my poor decision or leadership caused such a nasty reaction. 

What would my book say?  First, I would write based upon experience of not doing the right things. I seriously have wondered if my spiritual gift was, "making mistakes".   Here are few chapters that I would include:

1)      Don’t promote people to positions of responsibility without training them continually.

2)      The personal values of the pastor and leaders should be aligned with stated values of the church.  Otherwise, there will be a lack of accountability and awareness.  For instance, if the church says, ‘we value family’ the leaders need to model what that looks like.  If the church honors “God’s Word” the leaders better be in God’s Word.  If a value is 'lost people matter to God' you better be reaching people for Jesus. If Jesus is the subject, He needs to be the subject in your life.

3)      I would have a ministry coach that constantly takes me to self-awareness.  I see pastors and churches killing their ministries because of this!  They don’t have a clue how they are coming across to others.  I remember having to tell a pastor that people think that he is arrogant.  His response, "really"?  Another pastor was criticized for being aloof but it never really mattered to him.

4)       When making changes – move slowly and give several opportunities for people to gain an understanding of the ‘why’ behind the change, they are less inclined to resist them. 

5)      Address issues immediately and correct course as needed.  Hoping an issue will resolve itself never works.  This includes personnel, sin, worship, children’s ministries, youth ministry, missions, etc… People will respect you for immediate attention. I had a phone call today from a pastor that said, "Eric, because you are handling this today, you won't have to handle a year from now when the problem would be worse and involve more people."

6)      Leaders must be put time and energy into understanding and knowing those you are leading.  Shaking hands on a Sunday Morning is not “relationship building”.  Doing life together is relationship building.  I do not understand leaders that are the first ones out the door on a Sunday Morning.  I do not understand pastors that hide in their office or leaders that don’t drink coffee at least once a week with their team.

7)      Without good communication – drama will result.  More drama has been caused by me assuming people understand my intentions or could read my mind than any other thing. 

Do you have any chapters that you would add?

Shepherd, Lead Us!

 This is a letter that I sent to Senior Pastors as they prepare for Sunday Morning following the violent week of killing in Charleston, SC.  I am encouraging Pastors to be a Shepherd and lead their people in Romans 12:15 - weep with those that are weeping.

 

Shepherds!  I hope you never grow tired of hearing that title. Perhaps Shepherd and Servant Leader were two of the words that I prayed that the congregation I was serving saw more in my life than any other title that was attached to my name.

Shepherds, you have a great opportunity tomorrow in worship.  I am not referring to Father’s Day or perhaps a sermon with three points that begin with the same letter.  I am referring to the shepherding moment that you have with the congregation regarding the horrendous acts of violence, death,  and murder brought upon 9 precious people in Charleston, SC this week.  This senseless act of violence is not a time to raise a political bias or argue about race.  It is a time for Romans 12:15 – weep with those that are weeping.  My heart is broken.  My heart is broken for the families of these precious saints.  He heart is crying for their families tonight.  My heart is bleeding for black brother and sisters that are afraid, that are tired of racism, that are angry – my friends, it is not well with my heart tonight.

With the horrible acts of violence brought on by hatred and bigotry, friends, I feel more and more that I don’t belong in this world.  I don’t want to belong to a divided people.  I don’t want to belong to people who hate a color of skin or think less of a people who speak a different language.

And then I remember that I belong to a Kingdom of Peace – where love is the law.  I belong to a kingdom where broken hearts are healed, rich men give, dead men live and sinners become royalty.  I belong to a Kingdom of Peace where the color of your skin can be different from mine but you are my brother and sister.  I belong to a Kingdom whose King will reign supremely and will fill my heart with overflowing joy and confidence that this world is not my final home.

This Kingdom of Peace is what the world needs.  Preach the Kingdom message tomorrow – keep Jesus central – because, in the words of Andre Crouch’s song – Jesus is the answer.

Please take time to weep tomorrow.  Please take time to pray tomorrow.  You may not be popular by calling your church to remember, pray or weep.  Do it anyway.  Use your shepherd title wisely tomorrow.

I am praying for you as you lead,

Eric

Shepherd of Illinois Ministries

Does Mission Matter?

The church doesn’t have a mission, the mission has a church!

I’m not sure who said the true statement first but I have used it repeatedly as I have coached and mentored pastors and church leaders.  I have read mission statements that are long and short.  I have read a few that do not make sense to me and others that I wish I would have thought of first.  I have read mission statements that are really more vision statements but try to not argue about the correctness because the desire of my heart is that pastors and church leaders have clarity to what they are doing.

What is the difference between Mission and Vision?  It is easier to start by thinking about vision.  I encourage you to define vision as something that is seen, it is a preferred future that taps into your kingdom potential.  A mission is what you do.

Lisa and I have a mission and vision for our marriage.  Our mission is to have a healthy and growing marriage.  Our vision is to grow old together, enjoy one another, know each other deeply, never lose intimacy… Our vision is to laugh together and appreciate each other, it is to touch one another and feed one another with kindness and forgiveness. 

Do you see the difference?  The mission is basic and simple.  But the vision describes a healthy marriage that we desire, not that we have already attained it but we press forward.

For the church, the mission is connected to the Great Commandment and the Great Commission.  It is basic and simple to understand.  The mission is to make disciples. Some churches say, “love God, love others and serve the world” while others proclaim, “reach up, reach in and reach out”.  It is based on the model that Jesus left for us, it is the task that the Savior requires of us.  We are God’s plan to change the world by the message of hope and salvation for the world.

What do you do?  How would you say it?  Remember, mission is not your preferred future or how you do what you do.  It is basic and simply said, share and to the point.

Think about mission and discuss it at your next board meeting.  Download the free worksheet that helps churches define mission for their unique calling.

 MISSION WORKSHEET

Why I Believe in Summer Camps

The average American Youth spends
82 minutes on the phone per day
6 minutes reading per day...
80 minutes playing games per day
27 minutes of the computer per day
only 4 minutes per day outside.

At Camp Warren...

There is a chance to be known and loved
To be in the beauty of nature
To help navigate the TOUGH decisions of teens
Time to Think without distractions
Caring adult role models
High adventure environments
A community where risks can be taken and important questions can be asked.